tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4387304430116981620.post1864352278302719405..comments2024-01-30T03:37:53.924-05:00Comments on The Daily Dose: Still struggling to find that balanceDanahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16272293468239097754noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4387304430116981620.post-11129153653473123382011-04-27T21:12:42.296-04:002011-04-27T21:12:42.296-04:00Tori: I agree. Most of the mothers I've talked...Tori: I agree. Most of the mothers I've talked to feel the same kind of guilt. I'm going to take your advice because something really has to change.<br /><br />Tara: Oh, how I beat myself up! I love your advice to just do what I can and stop punishing myself for things I can't get done. (Thanks again for the blogger award!)<br /><br />Deb: When I read your comment, I realized how hard it is for me to delegate; I want to do it all, and then I end up feeling resentful. I need to work on allowing others to help (and realizing that they can do just as good a job--or better!)<br /><br />I love your idea of setting goals on a larger scale. It seems like a much more relaxed way of working--which I need--and I'm going to try that next month. I hadn't heard of the SMART goals but will check out that link. Thanks!Danahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16272293468239097754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4387304430116981620.post-72675845201903500892011-04-26T18:02:35.423-04:002011-04-26T18:02:35.423-04:00Dana, stylish mommy writer, needs an award =)
Come...Dana, stylish mommy writer, needs an award =)<br />Come and get it!Tara Tylerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07587802105993889515noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4387304430116981620.post-62701162231561249222011-04-26T15:53:39.666-04:002011-04-26T15:53:39.666-04:00The first few months of my son's life, I drove...The first few months of my son's life, I drove myself crazy trying to do it all. There quickly came a point where I recognized it was unsustainable. The easiest thing for me to ditch was cleaning. I passed that off to Ba.D. as "his" duty, freeing myself at the hand-off to not stress about it if it didn't get done. Which most the time it doesn't. ;) <br /><br />Have you heard about SMART goals? (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/SMART_criteria) Corporate acronyms are generally FTL, but this one really helped me organize my life and ditch my guilt. Part of the "R" ("realistic") was understanding there's only so much that can be done any given day. It's with "R" in mind that I set a monthly goal for writing instead of a daily one. If I focus on what I am and am not getting done on too small a scale--such as a daily one--I will be overwhelmed by what I'm not getting done. If I set goals on a slightly larger scale, I'm recognizing that unplanned contingencies and the like <i>will</i> impact my ability to get "want-to" tasks done some days and allowing myself the freedom to have those days. Guilt-free. :)Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06036505968642985025noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4387304430116981620.post-25241336779608601952011-04-26T14:25:36.528-04:002011-04-26T14:25:36.528-04:00lets see. im just got home after driving 4 hrs, im...lets see. im just got home after driving 4 hrs, im sorting a megamount of laundry and trying to catch up on commenting at the same time. my kids are pretty self suff. and i hav way more time to myself. but i feel guilty too - i need to spend mor positive time, not just nagging, which is how it seems i deal with them all the time. wen u feel some guilt, do something with them. your wip may take longer to finish, theres time. dont beat yourself up!Tara Tylerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07587802105993889515noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4387304430116981620.post-47329116402268317052011-04-26T11:23:31.688-04:002011-04-26T11:23:31.688-04:00I think mothers just tend to suffer from a lot of ...I think mothers just tend to suffer from a lot of guilt in general, particularly when they have been told "you can have it all.". The truth is that it's hard and there really isn't time for everything, so I've been trying to give everything a little bit of time and let go of the rest.Tori O.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16399396713107846289noreply@blogger.com